Trimming the Tree
I’ve never liked selecting my Christmas tree the day
after Thanksgiving. Yet, here I was at the tree farm going through the contenders
that would sit in the corner of my living room between the east and south
windows for the next four weeks. The place was packed, but efficient, as tree
shoppers lined up to have their trees shaken, baled, and loaded or were given a
saw to go cut their own.
Ever since my children had the
audacity to grow up and move away, I’ve been in this position, ie, purchasing a
tree whenever it was I had someone to help me drag it home and get it into its
tree stand, and typically, that day isn’t the appropriate day.
When
I was a child I learned the appropriate day was two days before Christmas Eve.
The day was sacrosanct—nothing changed the appropriate day. Two days prior to
Christmas Eve seems arbitrary, even rigid but that was the rule my parents
established. The formula went like this: on the day after Thanksgiving we would
pile into the car and drive to the Christmas tree farm. Christmas tree farms
are ubiquitous these days but in the middle of the twentieth century there
might only be one within reasonable driving distance. Once at the farm we were
released to run wild among the trees to choose the correct tree. There were
three of us so each of us had our own candidate and thoughts about which was
the pinnacle of perfection.
Early on my parents
attempted to bring consensus to the argument and try to get us all to agree on
one of the selected options. They quickly learned that an authoritative
decision was the best way to get home before dark with no bloodshed. My father
would examine each tree, soliciting comments from my mother—(too bushy, bare
spots, too big or too small) and between the two of them the winner would be
chosen. The tree would be tagged with our name, and mission accomplished, we’d go
home until two days before Christmas Eve to return to cut down our tree.
Once
we brought the tree home it sat outside on the screen porch until Christmas Eve
“so it can breathe” according to my dad. While the tree was breathing we moved
furniture around and readied the spot, in the corner by the fireplace where
this annual work of art would preside over the holiday festivities.
On
Christmas Eve the tree made its grand entrance to the living room and was
placed in the tree stand. After Christmas dinner (usually duck d’orange and
flaming cherries jubilee) the boxes of ornaments were reverently carried
upstairs from the basement. Each ornament was unwrapped, oohed and ahhed over,
and carefully placed in the perfect spot on the tree. My parents were no fools
and the ceremonial adorning of the tree was almost certainly a ploy to keep
Santa Clause anticipation at manageable levels until bedtime.
We
weren’t a matchy-matchy kind of family so the ornaments had no theme other than
they had been selected over time or were gifts from friends. Our trees were out
of step with other mid-century modern families who coordinated their tree and
ornaments thematically or with a color scheme in mind. Our trees were a hodge-
podge but once we completed the draping of the last piece of tinsel my mother
would step back and pronounce it the most beautiful tree she’d ever seen. This
was our tree-trimming ritual.
Once
I had my own family, we retained the custom of cutting our own tree and put it
up, usually ten days to two weeks prior to Christmas. By then my mother had
passed away and I had inherited the boxes of ornaments that resided in the
basement of my family home. Once my children were born I hit on the idea of
purchasing a new ornament for each of them every year—then when they moved out
they would have a trove of ornaments as a starter kit for their own trees. This
year I sent off the final box of ornaments to my oldest daughter as this is the
first year she and her husband will be celebrating Christmas in their own
household.
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So
this year I bought my tree the day after Thanksgiving and dragged the
familiar boxes out of the garage—the ornaments are still packed in the same
Inverhouse Scotch Whiskey and Old Export Beer boxes that they’ve been stored in
for the past sixty years. As I unwrapped
each ornament I reflected on where the piece came from—a gift—or one my mother
selected. The six glass icicles (now
five) that my mother loved, the wooden ornaments that I purchased every time I
had a new puppy or kitten. Those go on the bottom of the tree, just in case.
There is an ornament that was my father’s when he was a boy and several made
for me by my mother-in-law. A couple of my favorites were gifts from my kids. Each one of these ornaments takes me on a trip
through time from my childhood through my own children’s growing up years and
requires me to think about where it came from, the who it came from, and when
it came.
Over time my enthusiasm for trimming
the tree had waned. Years of juggling work, kids, plus holiday expectations had
turned Christmas into one more thing I had to do. This year is different. This year
I have the time to enjoy the season and think about its meaning. This year trimming
the tree led me to remember all the people still living but also the ones who have
gone that I performed the holiday expectations for. That’s a good thing.
As
usual my tree this year will be a hodge-podge of different styles of ornament, but
it is also a tree blossoming with the love and joy I’ve been the fortunate beneficiary
of all this time. Maybe that’s what Christmas is all about, even if I had to buy
my tree on the wrong day.
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